Why Our New Year's Resolutions Always Fail

Jasmine Diaz
November 8, 2022
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Ever wonder why your new year's resolutions never work out? Why do they always fall apart as quickly as they come together? There's a really good reason for that.

#1 - You're Not Committed

What often happens is that we decide, performatively, that we want to do something new, but we don't take the necessary steps to change our habits and behaviors.

We say we want the change. We want that weight loss, relationship, or new career. But when it comes to putting in the work, spending time, and dedicating ourselves towards our resolutions, we let other priorities get in the way, and we let comfort be our guide. These priorities and creature comforts cause us to drift away from our goals.

Real change requires accountability - personal responsibility, but commitment means work. Commitment means being uncomfortable, and commitment means it's on you, baby! If it doesn't work out, then you are to blame.

To accomplish your resolution, you have to dedicate yourself to the goal and be willing to see it through, regardless of the obstacles.

#2 Fear!

Are you afraid of the outcome? Possibly! We thrive in what we know, and the unknown is terrifying. Drama and past trauma can become a safe space. It's easier to stay home, not connecting with people, or not putting yourself out there by being vulnerable than actually showing up.

Your resolutions may be inspiring, but what if you received everything you have been manifesting? What if you got that dream job or that handsome partner you've been dreaming about? You would have to be available. You'd have to communicate. You would have to do all of the work to sustain that great relationship. And that can be unnerving.

Our fears can be an obstacle to our resolutions because the truth of the dream actually coming true can be too much of a reality. As long as you allow fear to control your outcome, you will never reach your annual goals.

#3 You're Not Being Clear

Your resolution only scratches the surface. To reach your new year's goals, you have to get clear. What type of relationship do you envision? What attributes are you looking for in a partner? Your resolutions don't take shape because you're not thorough about what you want to change.

If losing weight is the goal, how will you do it? Consider not only all the things you want to have or accomplish in this new year but also what steps you will need to make to get it done.

Whatever you decide, it's possible, but you have to commit, look fear in the face, and believe that you can do it.

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