Single Heterosexual Men Are Lonelier Than Ever, Studies Show. And Men Are Not Having It

Jasmine Diaz
November 8, 2022
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Single heterosexual men are lonelier and more unhappy than we thought, according to a recent article published by Psychology Today.

"Younger and middle-aged men are the loneliest they've ever been in generations, and it's probably going to get worse," says Dr. Greg Matos, author of the controversial piece that has sparked outrage and praise by many nationwide.

Dr. Greg highlights three trends that indicate that single men are going to struggle to find partners if they don't get their house in order:

Dating Apps
"Whether you're just starting to date or you're recently divorced and dating again, dating apps are a huge driver of new romantic connections in the United States. The only problem is that upwards of 62% of users are men and many women are overwhelmed with how many options they have. Competition in online dating is fierce, and lucky in-person chance encounters with dreamy partners are rarer than ever."

Relationship Standards
"With so many options, it's not surprising that women are increasingly selective. I do a live TikTok show (@abetterloveproject) and speak with hundreds of audience members every week; I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values."

Skills Deficits
"For men, this means a relationship skills gap that, if not addressed, will likely lead to fewer dating opportunities, less patience for poor communication skills, and longer periods of being single. The problem for men is that emotional connection is the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love. Emotional connection requires all the skills that families are still not consistently teaching their young boys."

Single heterosexual men are not happy with Psychology Today or Dr. Greg, and like most things on social media, those with grievances are gonna grieve:

Despite the backlash, Dr. Greg offers some key takeaways that every single should consider. "Level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance, and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort."

What do you think? Do you agree with Dr. Greg's assessment of the plight of single men?

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