May 13, 2021
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Dating

What the Porsha Williams #RHOA "Steal Yo Husband" Drama Says About Friendships

Jasmine Diaz
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here once was a time when "girl code" was a thing. If your girlfriend dated someone, that individual would be considered "off-limits." The code was sacrosanct. It was a form of religion. Almost every girl around the world knew this code. It is taught as early as middle school that the person your friend is feeling does not even exist in your world romantically.

The reality TV world got rocked this week when news broke that Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA) alumni Porsha Williams was engaged to castmate Falynn Guobadia's estranged husband, Simon Guobadia.

For the regular RHOA viewer, this news might come as a complete shock, but as the dating landscape has changed and more and more people seek companionship, perhaps the girl code is a dying concept honored by an aging generation.

It's not hard to find other examples of the girl code on self-destruct. Friends Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, and Ashley Greene have all dated Joe Jonas. Singer Selena Gomez and friend/supermodel Bella Hadid both dated The Weeknd. Any season of Love and Hip Hop will also serve as evidence of the girl code gone rogue.

So what does this say about our friendships? That companionship is more valuable than sisterhood. The framework for communication, problem-solving, and conflict resolution is built on the foundation of friendship. When the code breaks down, it creates a new question. If you're non-committal in your friendships, are you capable of having a successful, thriving relationship?

It's clear that girl code is on its death bed, but one can hope that all is not lost; that some friendships are worth preserving.  One can hope that if you find yourself in a Porsha Williams-like situation, that you'd think about the code. Is the friendship worth it? If it's a hard, "Nah," well then do you.